Fondness and Admiration in a Relationship

May 29 at 11:50am

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The definition of fondness and admiration is the amount of affection and respect in a relationship. This is important to have in a relationship to help you and your significant other grow closer to each other and build a strong relationship for marriage. This principle is good to know before and even after you are married. I am not married yet but I will be soon! I think this principle has helped me in my relationship with my fiance by learning to cherish it. I have learned to cherish all that he does for me and to let our relationship blossom each day by spending time with each other and learning new things about each other. An example of something that I cherish that my fiance does is that sometimes he will send me the longest messages that are all about how much he cares about me and what he likes about me. When I am having a bad day or even when I wake up, I sometimes have a huge text message from him and it makes my whole day! He always let's me know that he appreciates me and that he is excited to get married in the temple to me! He will sometimes even send short but sweet messages to me and they still make my day. Sometimes the smallest things are the best things. Something that I love to show my fiance how I cherish our relationship is I will surprise him with little things. I will surprise him at work and have lunch with him in the tractor, or I will buy him his favorite drink and candy and then set it on his bed so that when he gets home, he has a little surprise waiting for him. There are so many things that I cherish that he does for me in strengthening our relationship. 

In a talk given by President Nelson called "Nurturing Marriage," he talks about three action verbs to nurturing and strengthening a marriage. They are to appreciate, communicate, and contemplate. When he talks about to appreciate he says, "As grateful partners we look for the good in each other and sincerely pay compliments to one another, wives and husbands will strive to become the persons described in those compliments." I love this because when we take the time to appreciate our spouse, we are letting them know we are grateful for them and it shows the love that we have for that person. When he talks about to communicate, he says, "Marital unity is sustained when goals are mutually understood." I like what he says about to communicate with our spouse because we need private time to really talk, listen, and observe each other and to understand how that person is feeling in the moment. When he talks about contemplate, President Nelson says "Contemplation allows one to anticipate and to resonate (or be in tune) with each other and with the Lord." Contemplation will nurture God's kingdom as well as our marriage. 

I am grateful to be able to understand nurturing and cherishing in my engagement so that I can be prepared to use it in my own marriage. I am grateful for my fiance and all the wonderful things he does for me. He truly brings out the best in me.